Throughout my life, I’ve always been absolutely repulsed any time I heard people talk about hard work and working hard. Ew. So fucking gross. So fucked.
I didn’t know why either. It didn’t feel right to me or sit well with me at all though. Obviously, I didn’t know why as a teenager or in my 20’s, but I know why now. I still feel that way to this day, and I stand by it.
For many years, I observed what entrepreneurs did to grow (their strategies, marketing, actions, tactics, etc.) to figure out what I thought I had to do. Most things they were doing I had no desire to do, but I believed that I needed to do things the way they did since what they were doing was working for them.
Later on, I realized that there are endless ways to do things, and I can do things my own way. I must do things my own way that feels right to me not giving up.
Society’s standards, opinions, and beliefs as a whole are such an utter piece of shit that I held on to for so long. I really believed that I would never “make it” if I didn’t do things like all other people were doing. It’s so fucked that society has us truly believing that we have to work hard or we’ll never live happily.
Fuck that bullshit because there are people who work tremendously hard and get absolutely nowhere. Nowhere at all.
It all starts with the mind. Once I realized it was all wasted time to believe false standards that were undeniably made up, I made sure my mind was a strong foundation for everything else.
That was the first thing. I did an overhaul on what I believed, consumed, and observed all of those years unlearning all of the disgusting untrue shit I refused to even give the time of day to anymore. I completely changed my mindset, and that was the beginning of freeing everything for myself in my life.
The second thing was that I got super fucking clear on what it is that I wanted to do, create, and share with the world. In abundance.
Then, I found the right people for me to learn from who were actually doing things their way and loving their lives. That’s what real success is to me.
Not money, status, validation, or materialistic things. It’s loving life, being happy, having peace, and having resources. That’s success to me.
These people were each doing things in their businesses in totally different ways than each other, but all had one thing in common. They threw HaRd WoRk the fuck out the window and did exactly what felt right + true to them. Never looking back.
That’s what I finally do now. I regret giving up an unlimited amount of times for so many damn years, but I’m definitely wiser and know better now.
I’ll never give up on myself ever again.
It’s about feeling what is the right way for you, going with that, and experimenting. Trying. Implementing. Taking aligned action.
Experimenting and changing things up can be exhilarating for some, but frustrating for others. I’ve felt both, but I know that I must change things and continue to experiment to know what works and doesn’t for me all while consistently taking inspired aligned action.
That’s it. That’s all it is. Finding and creating your way, keeping up with it while also experimenting and changing things when needed. You see, I don’t agree with every single way each of these people do their things.
So, I take what I want to apply and leave the rest. Leave what doesn’t apply to, resonate with, or is irrelevant to you. I stay far the hell away from things that don’t feel right to me, no matter who or how many people do those things.
It can and should be effortless. Feel it. I truly believe that. I’m not one for forcing things. My soul guides me, and I am my muse. I don’t rely on or depend on motivation, discipline, willpower or inspiration whatsoever. Those are not needed and never worked for me no matter how much I tried to push them to. (Inspiration is cool to have though, so I do appreciate that.)
It’s not sustaniable in any way to try to keep up with something that doesn’t feel right, is draining, and isn’t something you love with all of your being. We don’t exist in this world for that.
To start, I did something I love every single day. And still do. Many people don’t even have an idea of what things they love to do because they’re so caught up in doing things they believe they have to do.
We need to sit with ourselves and ask ourselves what we want.
Who are you? How do you want to live your life? How do you want to show up?
I never thought much of the fact that in the stupid U.S., the majority of people always start introductions when meeting anyone by telling each other what they do. It’s so absurd when you think about it. What we do is not who we are.
People are terrified to sit down with themselves and really see how they feel so much that people don’t even know themselves. Going within is one of the best things I’ve ever done that I continue and will keep doing daily.
So, yeah. I hate hard work. I don’t partake in it. I know there are other ways that are better and that actually do work. I find out what that is for me just as other people have found out what it is for them. Flowing effortlessly, not forcing beligerently.
All of those decisions and actions add up. I choose for them to add up in getting me closer to what I want my life to be.
I have a vision, and it all starts with freeing myself.
I do something I love every single day.
Yes yes yesssss!!!!!! This is why we are here. Not to follow the mold and be sheep
I felt so alive reading this! Every inch of my soul was shouting YES, YES, YES!
That is the path I also started to take (not long enough ago) but I can confirm the only thing that works, is what works for you.
It starts with a reminder that we don't have to prove our existence! We exist and that is enough. Now, our job is to enjoy it!
Cheers to doing what we love Jessica!