Being alone is what actual happiness is

There is nothing that feels better and more freeing than being happy with being by yourself. It really feels the best when you actually want to be alone. So many people are always constantly chasing the feeling of love, and what it is to be with someone to share your life with. It's not necessary at all. You don't need that to actually be happy. It's always a feeling that people chase.

They always chase it because they think it’s certain that they will feel what they want to feel when they have it. That's not true at all though. A lot of it has to do with where you are in your life. There's different stages and phases that we go through in our lives. Sometimes, we change our minds.

Things can definitely turn out the way that we didn't think they would. We realize that things are so much better this way than they ever have been before. When you realize this and truly feel this, you'll know that you don't have to chase anything.

If you are meant to be with someone, you will. If you aren't, then you won't. You have to know what you don't want and what you do want. I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to be with anyone, and I don't think that's ever going to change again. I'm not interested in having a love life. I don't want a significant other. I don't want to be married either.

I want to be alone. A lot of people fear that so, so much. They fear that if they're alone, they will never be happy. It's actually the opposite. You could be with someone and be the unhappiest. You may not realize it because you're with them. It takes you to be away from them for you to know the truth of how you feel and what it is you really want.

You have to be by yourself to know what it is that you want. You get clear on that, and you also know what is that you don't want. Then, you focus on what you want, and you think of it. You align yourself with everything it is that you want. Ultimately, you start to feel the feeling that you thought you would have if you were with someone.

You start to feel that feeling when you're by yourself and with no one at all. The way people feel about love can differentiate between person to person. It varies. You don't have to romantically be with someone to feel love in your life. You don't have to be dating someone to have sex with them.

You can just have sex with someone because you feel like it, they feel like it, and you're both attracted to each other. Nothing more. You can feel love for many different beings and things in your life. It doesn't have to be a romantic partner.

You can feel love from your family, your friends, animals, the planet, things that you do, and other relationships that you have in your life that have nothing to do with romance. You could also enjoy someone's company and have sex with them without ever having romantic feelings for them.

You don't have to be involved with anyone romantically to be happy. You don't have to have the romantic love in your life to actually be happy. There are things in my life that I'm not happy about right now, but that is up to me to change that. It's things that I have to do in my own life that have nothing to do with being with anyone.

I know that I'm most happy with no one rather than with someone. I don't know if my mind will ever change, but I am so content with being alone and with being by myself. It is the time in my life to explore different places, have different experiences, learn about different cultures, be in different places, learn different languages fluently, and live in different places permanently outside of the U.S..

It helps that I don't like routines. It helps that I don't like doing the same things all the time. It helps that I'm not a planner. It helps that I like spontaneity. It helps that I like to go with how I feel and live in the flow. So, this exploration that I want to live personally fits me. It's how I want to live.

My whole life has not been that, so that is probably one of the reasons why I want that. We sometimes want the opposite from what we experience. We end up learning that we can have that if we want. We'll never know if we love it and feel great about it until we try out different things.

When you look back at things you've done in your life, you may have some regrets. There may also be things that you're grateful for that you've done. It could be both, and that's okay. It is not good to feel regrets, but sometimes we're going to have them.

All we have to do is look back, and that's it. We don't focus on it anymore because what we need to focus on is what we want and where we're going. We need to focus on what we're doing in the present. That's more important.

What I realized two or so years ago is that I just want to do be by myself. I haven't changed my mind since, and I have felt better about that than I've ever felt in my life. I've never been more happier about that aspect of my life. Being alone is what feels right to me. I have no interest or desire at all whatsoever to share my life with anyone in that way. I don't need that, and I don't want that.

I love watching videos and listening to podcast episodes about manifestation. It's one of my favorite things to learn about. So many times throughout, I see people who talk about manifesting talk about significant other or partner or whatever it's called. I immediately am turned off by that, and I stop listening because that is not what I want in my life. It's not relevant to me, and it's not going to do anything for me.

I realize that it's so prevalent throughout life. Being in a romantic partnership with someone is what so many people want. It's actually something that people make their ultimate destination that they want to reach.

If you spend time with yourself, you'll get clear about what it is that you want and what you don't want. You focus on what is that you do want and will figure out what you need to do. You may realize things you didn't know before, and it may surprise you.

You don't need to be with anyone to be happy. You get your happiness from yourself, and it always comes from within.

No matter if you just want someone to be in love with to share your life with in that way, you just want to have friendships in your life, you just want to be alone, you'll never know what it is until you give all of them a chance instead of just assuming that you want something because it's normalized.

It is so normalized in society to be with someone and to have a significant other. People want to have their "soulmate." It doesn't have to be that way though.

Everyone is so different in their own way. That's why it's very critical for us to get to deeply know ourselves, so that we know exactly what what we need and why.

We need to know exactly what feels right for us, and what is right for us. The whole soulmate thing can go any type of way. It's what you make of it. It's what you think of it and what you believe it to be for yourself. I don't think there is a soulmate for anyone. I used to think the opposite.

It's astounding, in a good way, how different of a person I am from just a few years ago. You can change a lot in such a short amount of time. We are constantly changing, growing, and evolving. A lot can happen.

Just to know that I don't want to have anything to do with being in a romantic relationship with anyone at all is knowing that I have grown a lot in the best way.

You don't have to depend on anyone for your happiness, and you don't have to depend on anyone to feel valid. You don't have to depend on anyone to feel good enough or to feel worthy. You are worthy simply because you exist.

When you really start to believe that and truly live that, you start to believe that you're enough on your own. You're enough as a person. You continue to evolve and grow. You start to make your happiness a priority in your life.

You'll realize that it's you that you've actually wanted all of this time. That is one of the biggest realizations I've had in my life.

I don't believe that there is a soulmate for anyone. I don't believe that it is a thing. There are some people that end up together that are really great for each other and are a great fit, but I ultimately think that people could have multiple soulmates in their lives.

I don't feel like there's one specific person for every person in this world. There's so many of us. If we really want to experience everything that we want, we need to expand and explore what we like. It's obviously not a one-size-fits-all type of thing.

You have to stay true to yourself and what you want. If you're one of those people who thinks you have to be with someone to be happy, you should sit down with yourself.

You need to question that because it's so ingrained in us from such a young age to feel like we have to be with someone and to believe that being with someone will complete our happiness.

That is so far from the truth that it's the opposite. If that's what someone wants, then okay. They can have that, but it's not the end all be all. The thing that matters the most is you believing that you're enough by yourself, and that you can make your own self happy.

Love,

Jessica